Annie had been after me to write a guest post for years and I had always declined. She said we were “muddling through leukaemia” together.  Which is true.  But this blog was HERS.  People wanted to hear from her; to get her wisdom; to be comforted by her words and insight; to be challenged about how they viewed the world.  She taught us all so much about strength and courage, compassion and diversity, right and wrong, living and dying.  She made us laugh and cry, sometimes in the same sentence.

Annie died in hospice yesterday morning.  She wasn’t in pain and was comfortable right to the end.   Despite her earlier misgivings about being in hospice, this time she knew it was where she needed to be.  The amazing staff made her feel safe and eased her mind, which is the most precious gift, both of us could have received.

Over the past few weeks we had daily chats about her life and what her legacy would be.  Her wondering wasn’t because of narcism.  Rather it was because she wanted to know that she made a difference.  That she helped people.  It wasn’t about feeding her own ego.  It was about her overwhelming desire to take care of people.  She actually apologised last week for “abandoning her followers”.  Yes, those were her words.  A true caretaker of hearts and souls until the end.

In keeping with Annie’s strict rule of 500 words or less, I offer this as her legacy.  She will be remembered for her kindness, warmth, and generosity, both of time and money.  She had an amazing ability to make people feel important and that she was truly listening to them. Annie showed us how to touch people’s lives and to make the most of every day.  She reminded us that life is short and precious.  She exemplified the tenet “it’s better to give, than take”.

She had a brilliant mind and made people laugh, often and hard.  She taught us to be honest but never mean or cruel.  She was reliable and always put others before herself.  She was a good friend.  And a great baker.  She set the bar on what it means to be a good person. She inspired us to be brave, strong, and kind.

Gone but never forgotten,  I hope you will continue to be inspired by Annie’s legacy.  I know she inspired me every day to be a better person.   I hope you got as much from Annie’s blog as she did.  Now that would make her smile.

Thank you for all your love and support these past 4 years.

xo  J

Annie in a library (where else would she be?) in Vienna.






10 thoughts on “Epilogue

  1. Thank you for your post Judy. My heart goes out to you. Annie was a special person and she will live in my heart as I remember our brief times together these past few years. I will miss her and her insights into life and death.


  2. A beautiful post about a beautiful person. I’m going to show this to my friends who didn’t know Annie so they will understand who she was. All my love, Melanie


  3. I love you Annie.

    Thank you for gifting us with your blog. Your words, point of view, and humour, forever changed the way I see life. Thank you for all the extremely thoughtful responses to each person who responded to your posts. Thank you for the wonderful emails you sent giving advice and friendship. Even though we only met in person a handful of times, I instantly loved you and needed you in my life. You have made me a better person and I am forever grateful for you.

    J., your tribute is so perfect and so beautifull. Thank you for writing it for the readers. I am thinking of you and Jelly, praying for peace and comfort in the days ahead.

    Thank you for including such a lovely photo of Annie. It has brought a smile to my face to see her on the blog.

    I love you Annie. ❤️



  4. Judy, I am heartbroken even though we all knew this was coming. I will miss her so much but I will be a better person because of all that she gave. Your Epilogue was beautiful. Thank you for the post, I hope you are surrounded by much love and support.
    Thank you, Coleen


  5. We will miss her beautiful soul and endless kindness, and extend our thoughts and love to you. I can’t express what you both have meant to our lives. XOXO M,J,N,A and of course Stanley and Newman too.


  6. Thank you J for writing your tribute. Annie is such loving and kind person. She had such compassion for others which came across so easily in her blog. I hope that you and your family can find some peace in knowing that she is no longer suffering and that she knew how loved she was.
    I will miss her.
    Michele Kavanagh ❤


  7. J, Annie was only a part of my life for a short while, but she made a huge impact. She reminded me often to be kinder and more forgiving to myself because she liked me and wanted me to like me more. She was altruistic and gentle and compassionate and I was honoured to have her on my two PALS teams. She made a difference in people’s lives. Such a legacy. I am sorry that I cannot be at the service but am there in spirit. Hugs to you and to Jelly.


  8. I was really missing Annie today. Thank you for keeping this blog up and letting us revisit her. It’s more than we have of a lot of people we miss, and her warmth, wit, and spirit shine through in every post.


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